Liking Someone Too Much Will End Relationships

Have you ever heard of relationships failing because one person likes the other one too much? Is there even such thing as liking someone too much? Yes and it's often called infatuation. It is something that is particularly easy to catch when you're someone who fantasizes a lot. As someone who falls into that category, I blame it on the unrealistic portrayals of relationships we see every day in the media.

Fantasizing about situations causes a rift between reality and perceived reality, and can be very detrimental to relationships. Of course, there is a bit of this in every relationship, especially in the beginning. They call it the rose-colored glasses, or the honeymoon period. However, taking it to the extremes, and letting it fuel your infatuation is not good. You no longer like whoever you're with, but rather the idea of them. This is worse than dating someone because you like the idea of dating. At least you're not unfairly putting that person on a pedestal and forcing unrealistic expectations onto them, and then feeling terrible every time they fall short. Or maybe you do because those two things often come hand-in-hand. One day the infatuation will wear off and you will realize the person wasn't who you thought they were, and it wasn't because they tried to be someone else, but because you couldn't see them for them. This is why relationships where one person seems abnormally enamored will fail.

Sure, you can grow to like someone, but you pretty much go through a break-up when you wake up from your infatuation. You might even despise the person you're with, because they now stand in the place of the person you once, and still do, like so much, but didn't actually exist. Waking up feels terrible, but it paves the way for a much healthier and longer lasting relationship.